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The book is full of general words and phrases. It's about obedience, not about cooperation. It gives tips how to make kids obey your rules. It was not what I was searching for. The author is against spanking and yelling, but it's OK for she to use your authority over kids to force them to obey you She mostly recommends technics of punishments and rewards, although she mentioned such things like Natural Consequences, Anger Management, Active Listening, and such.
I have started recommending it to all of my friends. I think it would work for all ages and the book addressed all ages needs and how to modify accordingly. Overall my kids are pretty well behaved, but at home we have to ask them/tell them things multiple times until we ending up yelling at them, are plagued by emotional outbursts and temper tantrums, back talk, whining and have a hard time enforcing some key rules. When you read it you will learn about different parenting styles, their effectiveness or lack there of and a new way to create a happy loving and peaceful family life where you can get your children to cooperate and act as they should.
I have already started to see the effect in my kids behavior and it has even started to improve my marriage (partially thanks to the one chapter on the parental relationship). My kids go to bed easily and on time, are polite and well behaved when outside of the house, but at home is another story. It gave tons of useful tips and approaches to use in all situations. But when I read this book it was if I had an epiphany. I learned that I was using at least two ineffective parenting styles and if I just adjusted what I was doing I would be much more effective. This book is wonderful.
I am the mother of a 3 and 7 year old. Lately I have taken to watching those nanny shows to get tips on what to do. The parenting style is kind, effective and helps your children grow and become self reliant to boot. It unravelled all of the mysteries of why my kids act the way they do and what to do differently to fix it. If you can read only one book on parenting, this is the one to read. My kids are not at all like the kids in the shows but I had found a few tips that I have applied at home.
I can't wait to see where we are in a month or two, but I know the book has profoundly changed the way I parent and I have already seen some results and can't wait to see more. This book was clearly written and easy to understand.
Non-judgmental and very honest style of writing. The tools in the book brought immediate results.
I found this book to be so helpful in raising my grandson. It has been and is a refreshing way of dealing with childhood again.
I highly recommend this book. I love the humor and the bright, positive thinking that fills up the book, and I really appreciate the fact that Pantley also addresses other side issues like marriage skills and parental self-esteem.Overall a great book. Very helpful, especially for those parents that fail to be consistent and "go with the flow", failing to create strong rules and a loving, solid discipline. This books acts a self-confidence booster for parents, offers very empathetic advice when it comes to parental anger, and actually gives very practical tips and hints to deal with misbehavior.
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