Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children

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This is a great book. I would recommend this book to all parents. It really puts things into perspective. Read it.it's a good one.

Phone calls, email, dishes, and laundry await. With amazing insight, Elizabeth Pantley gives us a glimpse into our children's souls during everyday exchanges: grocery shopping, coming home from work, and other ordinary times in our day. No exaggeration: this book may well change your relationship with your children forever. What she reveals will definitely make you think twice about some of the ways you've responded in the past. But Pantley's tale of the girl waiting for Dad to come home will affect you far more deeply than the platitude "They'll be grown up before you know it." For every parent, at every stage. Who among us hasn't brushed off a child who wants to play.

In one of the chapters, Pantley uses an example from her own parenting. Or that mom or dad will always be available to tackle the complicated stuff. I bought this book because I loved the No Cry Sleep Solution. I don't think that we need a book to figure that out. I found that I didn't even need to finish reading the chapter to guess at what the message was. And maybe by not allowing him/her to do the homework, we are saying that he/she isn't capable of doing it. Unfortunately for me, in this example she comes out having done everything correctly (not doing her child's homework project for him) and a number of her son's classmates' parents are in the wrong.

After reading the first three examples and the "hidden" messages, I was completely disappointed and returned the book. I thought, okay, now she's going to share with us one of her mistakes and how she learned from it, and was about to give her some credit for being honest with her readers. These messages are anything but subtle. Don't we all know that the child should do his/her OWN homework.

Not everyone comes from a wonderful family of origin, and this book showed me how many things I was passing on that I had no intention of teaching my daughter. Reading this book has been a seriously eye-opening experience for me. While I "knew" that our children are little sponges and take in everything around them, I had no idea how many "hidden messages" I was giving my daughter that were so negative. I recommend this book to every parent. I truly saw myself as an excellent and attached parent, and I still do, but this book has truly called me to a deeper parenting model.

Powerful is the only word to describe this book. I think if all parents were required to read it before their children were born our world would be a place I'd be more than happy to raise my 2 children in.Jessica HudsonSexy & Stylish Maternity Clothing and Nursing Clothing at Eva Lillian Maternity & Nursing Boutique I can't believe the impact it can have on your life.