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In one episode, he drove a Korean woman not just to tears, but to actual sobbing, over the state of her guest room. As a form of toxic help, shame is a major player. Is that how much she means to you." Given the reverence bestowed upon elders in the Asian culture, it was especially mean. Given their serious, lifelong struggles to get organized, it would not be surprising if a disproportionate number showed up on these TV shows seeking help. I watched a few episodes of that TV show Walsh is on, and he is clearly not a professional in any sense.
One of his organizational strategies is shame, one of the most damaging emotions to mental and emotional health. He pummeled her with questions like: "Would you want your mother to stay in this room. Shame would be particularly destructive to these individuals. Walsh just doesn't get it: organization or lack thereof is not a moral issue. He gives the impression of someone who somehow fell into an opening in front of a TV studio on his way to his job installing drywall.
Is that what you think of her. Furthermore, disorganization is major feature of several neurological disorders, particularly ADD, and many of the afflicted are undiagnosed and untreated.
If you feel a need to read this book, please check it out of the local library. How do you want to feel when you are in the room.While the premise is that things must be culled and removed from the home, there is more stress on simply tossing things in the trash than suggestions of ways to properly dispose of items or recycle, or pass along to appropriate charities or non-profits.I'll be giving my copy of this book to a charity's upcoming book sale. There's little here in the way of new ideas and the book is very repetitive. Perhaps the author had a page quota to meet.Two questions were helpful in thinking about clutter removal: What is the purpose of the room.
Simple and profoundly true. Excellent book. I sat down to rest, to write this. Must go back to THROWING THINGS AWAY, that are neither useful or important.
We all know a friend or a relative who could really use the lessons, but Peter Walsh does not provide any discussion on how to breach or introduce the subject. Reading Peter Walsh's 'It's All Too Much', I was glad to find many of the suggested practices already in use, but I also found a few small gems which made me reconsider the status quo and make a change for the better. By process of self-selection, I would place myself in the better half of the population when it comes to keeping the clutter out of my life. The discussion on 'cost vs value', was especially valuable: remember that the cost (what you paid), is not necessarily equivalent to value of that item in your life. There, you're on your own. It's that piece of clothing you bought and wore once, or an expensive present someone gave you and which is now occupying prime real estate in your house - it's time for it to go.The only immediate shortcoming: the book, in all likelihood, will attract a self-selected crowd of people who are already well down this path.
He's one person who deserves all the positive publicity he gets.It was refreshing to see another person say lots of the things I had been thinking about regarding hoarding stuff. He puts his educational psychology degree to excellent and practical use in his career. Highly recommended. If Walsh's advice were taken by more Americans, no doubt there would be less debt, less fat, and less needless stuff floating around. I have read a myriad of books about space clearing and getting organized, but none hit the spot like Peter Walsh's philosophy of getting (and staying) organized.Even Walsh admits that much of what he does is good ol' common sense, and it is. I'm not a hard-core hoarder like some folks, but I did need that extra push to not only get rid of the things that had been clogging my space for years, but not feel bad or want it again when it's gone. - Donna Di Giacomo Although I have been able to let go of much stuff in the past, Peter Walsh's book enabled me to keep in mind not to continue to buy while cleaning out and to be extremely mindful when buying more things in the future.
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