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There are actually three reasons why it was a real chore for me to finish reading this book.First, some of the advice in this book just struck me as being weird. If you can't escape the area where your child is, then another alternative is to recite poetry to yourself. Not everyone will be served equally by the same book. Some ways in which they can do that are to leave the area where their child is and go to their "special place" where they can relax, for example locking yourself in the bathroom. If you could find some value in it, I'm glad of it, but this didn't help me at all.
Actually I felt bad for some of the children, for example poor Amelia, who is pictured next to the section on biting even though she is not biting anyone in the picture or even threatening to bite anyone. She writes almost as if she were talking to children. The pictures don't inform or illustrate any of the situations discussed in the book. Well, this book ended up not being what I was looking for. Another alternative is to listen to music. As a father, I didn't find any of this advice very useful.Second, I felt that the tone of the book was condescending. I hope that she isn't branded as a biter just because the author had a third of a page that needed to be filled.By looking at some of the other reviews, it seems that this author has her fans, and that is fine. I like children, but I'm not particularly interested in paying a few extra dollars for a book because it is padded with about 20 pages of random pictures.
For example, it advises parents to time out themselves when they feel stressed. It seemed that the author writes in a style in which she imagines that you have no idea what you are doing as a parent. If you're considering buying this book, think carefully about what you are looking for in this type of book and choose wisely. I would have prefered a less condescending style of writing.Third, and this is a minor quibble, the book is filled with random pictures of children.
Because of this solution we bi passed any anger that would have happened. I am also a day care provider. Because as you know, being a mother is a full time job, we are cooks, maids, coaches and also psychologist amongst other things. My husband would get very angry at my son for doing so. I especially enjoy the section on Planning ahead and looking ahead. I am a stay at home mom of 2, my kids are 4 and 1. And my son knowing this in advanced helped us tremendously. So we planned ahead and talked to him about his behavior and what to do in order to avoid getting angry.
Elizabeth shows us ways in order to prepare our children to be successful and well behaved teenagers. For example, my son would interupt us while we were talking to another adult. We all get angry at our children at time or another. She has many examples of why we get angry and levels of anger and most important how to manage your anger. With all of these children here daily I find this book so helpful. Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Disipline Solution book, is so inspiring and helpful to me.
This book helps me with encouraging ways to disciplining the children. It really opened my eyes as far as discipling my children and how I do so will affect them as young adults=) I also like Elizabeth's approach towards anger management. We told him to say excuse me, and if daddy was busy to give him a signal letting him know that we will be with him in a minute. My husband and I read this chapter together and he found her approach so helpful=) We found a plan that worked for us. The kids I watch range from 8mths-5yrs. I love how honest she is about this issue.
Thank you so much Elizabeth for giving us Moms and Dads such wonderful advice of parenting. And it is nice to know that I am not alone with this.
This book is yet another in the line of must-haves for parents of many different types of children. Elizabeth Pantley is the best. Her ideas and suggested techniques incorporate everyday, simple thought processes which are easy to comprehend and implement. I can't wait for the next one. I wouldn't have a bookshelf without at least one of her books.
If you are interested in learning new techniques, spend your money elsewhere. However, this book doesn't come close. I read Elizabeth Pantley's "No Cry Sleep Solution" and loved it. The ideas are generic and drab. I do not recommend this book. At one point she even recommends placing your child in front of the TV.
In one of my favorite parts of the book, Part 2, "Everyday Challenges" the author writes "And who would have thought that raising one tiny child could bring so many frustrating everyday challenges". I have read various parenting and child development books throughout my life as a new mom, some were more helpful than others. I would pick some up here and there. My eyes filled up because I had a particularly challenging day that day, and I felt like finally, I found a book and an author that would help. This book is the kind of book that I will hold on to and reference regularly to remind myself on how to keep going, positively.
I highly recommend it, and am thankful for the realistic approach she offers. It gave me a different outlook on raising our girls. I ran out of sticky tabs - highlighting various parts of this book that I wanted to share with my husband. I don't remember exactly how I came across this book, but I'm glad I did. My twin girls are now four and a half years old. Reading this book, however, is like having a conversation with someone. I have tried to not overwhelm myself with tons of books. I had fallen into a rut and felt like I wasn't being the mom I wanted to be.
The first few paragraphs rang true with me. Someone who understands and wants to help. I have seen changes in my girls and myself with help from suggestions in this book and I am grateful. I didn't want to constantly battle, and have constant discipline issues.
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